The Dialogue We Have with Ourselves

I’m the sort of person who spends a lot of time in their own head. Wherever I go, I’m constantly having a dialogue with myself — ordering a matcha latte, with a group of friends, picking out an outfit, while I’m alone, before posting on my story, when someone offends me, whilst my mother scolds me, etc. It’s this constant back and forth of words and remarks and phrases. It’s a conversation I’m having — but without anyone else. 

How we communicate with ourselves influences the way we see the world around us. It journeys deep into every aspect of our lives: from educational, to social, to creative…

I’m sure everyone has had a dialogue with themselves — to process a situation, to make the right decision, to challenge an idea, to do anything. No matter how little or how much you get stuck in your thoughts, I’ve learned that it’s so important to gear our thought-patterns into a more positive, fruitful, and understanding environment.

“I wish I were like her”, “I’m not good enough”, “ I will never measure up”, “But they will laugh”... 

Is your self-dialogue judgmental, negative, positive, calm, kind, light-hearted, turbulent, whimsical, busy, optimistic, chaotic, or encouraging? Does it comfort you like a mother? Or does it limit you from thinking, being and doing certain things? Does society play a role in your self-communication?

The way our dialogues with ourselves are mannered will impact our relationship we have with the world.

I think that at the end of the day, we should try to speak to ourselves without too much judgement or negativity. Let's try to shift that conversation from thunderbolts and rain into a more loving, positive light. 

— Solaia